Willie Spears

Willie Spears

One of the best ways to win at home is having a healthy marriage. A healthy marriage is good for each spouse, but more importantly, it is good for each child. Children are walking video recorders. More is caught than taught. I believe most of the issues young people have in life can be traced back to their parents' examples. I worked with young people for over thirty years, and I have seen this in many of my students. Parents do not realize the impact unhealthy relationships have on their children.

Three ways to have a healthy marriage.

1. WATCH YOUR MOUTH

  • You never get a good result from bad words.
  • Your marriage will never rise above your mouth.
  • Good relationships have good communication.
  • There is no such thing as inconsequential speech.
  • Words do not evaporate. They accumulate.
  • Good words have power. Bad words have power.
  • Our tongue has a disproportionate influence over our whole life.

2. BE ANGRY, BUT BE NICE

  • Do not deny your anger
  • Do not justify mean actions with anger
  • Do not go to bed angry
  • Depression is anger turned inward
  • Confront in love
  • Complain and do not criticize
  • Listen to your spouse and believe them
  • Forgive and let it go
  • The first three minutes of a conversation are most important

3. SERVER ONE ANOTHER

  • Men want respect
  • Women want security
  • Do not keep score
  • Touch each other often in a nonsexual way
  • Talk. Listen.

Three ways to win at home:

1. Serve your spouse.

2. Use uplifting language when talking to your spouse.

3. Work on your marriage

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