During football season Coach Spears will have his friends fill in for him as he focuses on the season. This week we have Terrell Tarver.
While on this journey of life, what I've learned is that regardless of how good or bad you are doing in life, we will face criticism.
Being yourself in a world that is constantly trying to make you something else is the greatest accomplishment. Regardless of our age, we find ourselves conforming to the environment we emerge ourselves in. Research shows the need for acceptance is a basic human instinct – although some value it more than others. We all want to fit in, to belong to something bigger than ourselves.
Proven by the success of many, we often want to ensure we are in good standing with our family, community, churches, boss, or coworkers. This often puts us in a state of constantly trying to impress those around us; we are trying to make sure we're driving the best vehicle and living in the right (biggest) house.
I poll the question, what happens when you do not meet others expectations? One morning as I was taking my daughter to school, we had an excellent conversation of all she had to accomplish that day. As she got out of the car I noticed she was wearing a green T-shirt. When I returned to pick her up from school, I noticed it was a Duck Dynasty T-shirt with Si Robinson face and the word "HEY" coming out of his mouth. I thought to myself, surely my baby girl has another shirt she could have worn. After asking her, how was her day I went on to ask what made you wear that shirt today? She replied, "Daddy, it's just a shirt. I'm not trying to impress anyone." That small comment gave me so much insight into how we function as a society. We often try to impress people we don't know with money we don't have that leads us down a path of emptiness.
Success in life doesn't happen overnight. I've learned to transition from the state of impressing others to maintaining and upholding the high standard in life.
We are guaranteed to make a good impression when you have the right people around you. Everyone with a desire to do or be better in life ought to build an inner circle that adds value to him or her and to be the best version of themselves possible. But, choose carefully, for the members of your inner circle will become your closest confidantes; your inner circle will make you or break you.
One thing we have to keep in mind is that we can not make it in this world alone. One of my favorite books says it like this, "Where there is no counsel the people fall, but in the multitude of counselors, there is safety. Impressing those that matter and those that reciprocate in your life will give you great rewards.
So who belongs in the "council", in this inner circle, you may ask?
1. Loyal people
2. People who share your vision
3. People of integrity
4. Wise and Intelligent people
5. People with influence
6. People of faith
This is not an all-inclusive list, feel free to search for yourself and see where your priorities lie when it comes to creating your inner circle, which in return will leave a lasting impression with your family, friends, community and those that are watching you from a distance.
I challenge you to look at your most frequent contacts, those you talk and text the most throughout your day. Take a close look and ask yourself, "Can I win a championship with this team (the inner circle ) that I am interacting with daily. If you can not, you may want to re-evaluate and recruit you five new starting players.
Terrell Tarver is a native of Bullock County, where he spent 17 years of his life in Midway, AL. on his fathers' farm. Many may know him as (KB Boy). After graduating in 1998, he joins the military. While on active duty, Terrell's dedication to duty allowed him to protect and defend our nation while participating in Operation Iraq Freedom.
Terrell Tarver is the Founder and CEO of Tarver Consulting, a veteran-owned company. Terrell is one of the most sought after personal development, thought leader and leadership trainer in the CSRA.
His mission in life is to empower a global community of leaders whose dreams positively influence the lives of millions around the world. He is committed to helping others find meaning in their life and work. After the 9/11 attack, Terrell was called to fight our nation's wars. Having the spirit of a servant, Terrell conducting a tour in Iraq, during Operation Iraq Freedom, as team chief of one of the most elite units of the Third Infantry Division, leading them to victory.
Specializing in working his fellow service members, Terrell’s magic happens when he helps those around him understand, their purpose and true potential in life. Mr. Tarver brings out their absolute best in others, not through his motivational speaking, his interactive workshops nor by his in-depth inspirational speeches, but by being who he indeed is, in everything he does or says.
Helping inspire someone to reach their goals and tap into their unlimited potential is a huge part of what he does. He holds a BA from Trident University in Leadership Management.
He is also a well-respected competent communicator in Toastmasters International. Terrell made a promise in second grade to become an adult that helps his fellow man.
To this day, Terrell can easily be found in the community exuding confidence and motivating others.
Terrell Tarver is a mentor, coach, thought leader, licensed minister, inspirational and motivational speaker. He has been awarded the Miles Leadership of excellence award. He trains and speaks to thousands each year through his business Tarver Consulting. Terrell may be reached at www.terrelltarver.com.